Little Prince (by Antoine de Saint-Exupery)

The Little Prince

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"I am looking for friends. What does that mean - 'tame'?"

"It is an act too often neglected," said the fox. "It means to establish ties."

" 'To establish ties'?"

"Just that," said the fox. "To me, you are still nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of me. To you, I am nothing more than a for like a hundred thousand other foxes. But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world ... "

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"It would have been better to come back at the same hour," said the fox. "If, for example, you come at four o'clock in the afternoon, then at three o'clock I shall begin to be happy. I shall feel happier and happier as the hour advances. At four o'clock, I shall already be worrying and jumping about. I shall show you how happy I am! But if you come at just any time, I shall never know at what heart is to be ready to greet you ... One must observe the proper rites ... "

"What is a rite?" asked the little prince.

"Those also are action too often neglect," said the fox. "They are what make one day different from other days, one hour from other hours. There is a rite, for example, among my hunters. Every Thursday they dance with the village girls. So Thursday is a wonderful day for me! I can take a walk as far as the vineyards. But if the hunters danced at just any time, every day would be like every other day, and I should never have any vacation at all."

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"Goodbye," said the fox. "And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye."
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"It is the time you have wasted for your rose that makes your rose so important."
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"But you must not forget it. You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed. ..."

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The little prince went away, to look again at the roses.

"You are not at all like my rose," he said. "As yet you are nothing. No one has tamed you, and you have tamed no one. You are like my fox when I first knew him. He was only a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But I have made him my friend, and now he is unique in all the world."

And the roses were very much embarrassed.

"You are beautiful, but you are empty," he went on. "One could not die for you. To be sure, an ordinary passerby would think that my rose looked just like you - the rose that belongs to me. But in herself alone she is more important than all the hundreds of you other roses: because it is she that I have watered; because it is she that I have put under the glass globe; because it is she that I have sheltered behind the screen; because it is for her that I have killed the caterpillars (except the two or three that we saved to become butterflies); because it is she that I have listened to, when she grumbled, or boasted, or even sometimes when she said nothing. Because she is my rose."

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"The men where you live," said the little prince, "raise five thousand roses in the same garden - and they do not find in it what they are looking for."

"They do not find it," I replied.

"And yet what they are looking for could be found in one single rose, or in a little water."

"Yes, that is true," I said.

And the little prince added:
"But the eyes are blind. One must look with the heart ..."

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One runs the risk of weeping a little, if one lets himself be tamed ...

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"All men have the stars," he answered, "but they are not the same things for different people. For some, who are travelers, the stars are guides. For others they are no more than little lights in the sky. For others, who are scholars, they are problems. For my businessman they were wealth. But all these stars are silent. You - you alone - will have the stars as no one else has them - "

"What are you trying to say?"

"In one of the stars I shall be living. In one of them I shall be laughing. And so it will be as if all the stars were laughing, when you look at the sky at night ... You - only you - will have stars that can laugh!"

And he laughed again.

"And when your sorrow is comforted (time soothes all sorrows) you will be content that you have known me. You will always be my friend. You will want to laugh with me. And you will sometimes open your window, so, for that pleasure ... And your friends will be properly astonished to see you laughing as you look up at the sky! Then you will say to them, 'Yes, the stars always make me laugh!' And they will think you are crazy. It will be a very shabby trick that I shall have played on you ..."

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Faith Journey Update - December 6

PRAISE and PROGRESS

1. The LORD has called us individually and provided us a team of five in the past three weeks.
2. He provided me a promotion air ticket. As a result, my budget decreased to $---.
3. The LORD has provided me the full amount of support I need for the trip. In face, He has provided for me exceedingly and unexpectedly, through you all.
4. Through the process of support raising, the LORD has taught me to trust HIM and His provision more.
5. He has prepared my heart for missions by giving me opportunities to share the gospel with friends right now. It has been such an encouragement to see one of them responding to His love and growing joyfully.
6. We have made contact with the local workers.
7. The LORD has been carrying me through the hectic end-of-semester time. Officially school does not end until next week. But He has helped me to finish up my class assignments and my teaching/grading responsibilities. It is clearly His power and strength that sustains me. (It is awesome to be carried by HIM, enjoying the Isaiah 40:31 experience :-)

PRAYER REQUESTS

1. Please pray for continued examination, purification, and preparation of our (team members') hearts.
2. Please pray for spiritual protection. Please pray that we will know the LORD who is the object of our faith more each day. As a result, our faith will grow daily and we will continue to walk by faith, not by sight.
3. Please pray for physical protection of health and strength.
4. Please pray that we will love the people the LORD puts in our path and we will have wisdom to know how to share the good news with them.
5. Please pray for the preparation of the hearts of those who will cross path with us and for the stirring of their spiritual hunger.
6. Please pray for the unity of the team.
7. Please pray for our time to spend with family after the trip, especially for the salvation of E's and my own parents.
8. Please pray that the LORD will help me with the practical things of the trip preparation and will govern my mind and heart with His Peace that surpasses all understanding.

I thank the LORD for you and all your support! Thank you for joining us on HIS team. The LORD is my fortress and you all are the proof of HIS faithfulness. Thank you!

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1 c. butter (no substitutes)
1 c. sugar
1 c. light brown sugar, packed
1 egg
1 c. oil
1 c. rolled oats
1 c. crushed corn flakes
1/2 c. shredded coconut
1/2 c. chopped walnuts
3 1/2 c. sifted all-purpose flour
1 tsp. vanilla

In a large bowl cream butter, sugars, oil until light and creamy; add egg; mix well. Add oats, corn flakes, coconut and nuts. Mix well. To same mixture add flour, soda, salt and vanilla. Stir well. Form into balls the size of a walnut. Flatten with fork dipped in water. Bake on an ungreased baking sheet, 350 degree oven for 12 minutes. Allow to cool a few minutes before removing from pan.

Sexual Abuse Reading - Dec. 2, 2007

Object Relations Therapy of Physical and Sexual Trauma (by Scharff & Scharff)

TML RC569.5 A28 S32 1994


p. 47 - Unresolved Rapprochement Crisis in Incest: Mahler

The developmental stage of separation-individuation

split-off sense of goodness and safety --> carry on being, remains tied to the internal representation of the bad mother; Ambivalence and rage were denied to preserve a semblance of a good internal parent. Fisher (1991) believed that this is the reason for the need for secrecy, lack of recall, memory that is only somatic, and lack of affect of incest victims. (The Trauma of Transgression: Psychotherapy of Incest Victims - Kramer & Akhtar)

Kramer (1985) - "Object-coercive doubting" only in women abused by their mothers.

p. 227 Focusing only on actual events represents the sense of going-on-being that the abused child works so hard to preserve as a defense against trauma and chaos (Siegel 1992). I had to let these psychologically uneventful times simply be and not try to unravel them or find more in them than was there. These times actively maintained me in a neutral attitude and prepared the therapeutic alliance to bear the next exploration of the encapsulated trauma and its impact on the transference.

p. 62 The transitional space for going-on-being: Winnicott

The psychosomatic partnership
Contextual and centered holding
Going-on-being in the potential space
Rebuilding the transitional space
Using countertransference to reach trauma
Providing a generative analytic relationship



Speculations:

1. A CL - cause of incest - incest - cut off of feelings
2. C CL - sexual abuse, stimulated/excited - shame, guilt - defend against enjoy sexual touch and intimacy?

Faith Walk - Nov. 30

* It is interesting how the staying in B came about so easily, when I had tried so hard without success. His provision beyond my knowing!

* It surely was nice to see NS again. It was nice of her to buy dinner for us. It was a jolly time to go sightseeing. Or should I have sticked to my plan of getting work done.

* I do feel overwhelmed as the departure date seems to come closer than I expected. Dear LORD, please give me YOUR peace, the peace that transcends all understanding. Dear LORD, help me prepare for the trip, spiritually, emotionally, physically, and practically.

* It was nice to have the first follow-up with Foundation material. :-) What a blessing and a joy it was to spend time together like that.

* My supervision pointed out my being overly active in BI during the intensive time of graduate school training. I know I have decided (probably since this summer) that I would make time for the things I really wanted to do, instead of letting the demands of graduate school run my life. However, am I now swinging too much the other way? I have always thought my increasingly active involvement as a result/reflection of my spiritual growth, God' s leading for me and His training opportunities to prepare me for what He has made me for. However, it is also a fact that I have been behind on my clinical record keeping and have not worked much, if at all, on my dissertation project. Is it really God's leading for me? Or am I letting my life run by urgency instead of importance? I guess this is a more general question regarding the pattern of my day-to-day living. Where is the balance between being planful and organized and being flexible? Dear LORD, please do help me become wiser with my time and thus my life. Dear LORD, draw me closer to YOU in prayer to seek Your leading and guiding. Let YOU and the leading of Your Spirit be the only foundation and motivation of my actions. May YOU be gloried in my life! I do specifically pray for the commitment regarding BSF. Please do speak to me clearly. Dear LORD, I will not commit myself unless I know clearly it is what You have planned for me.

* Whatever it is, I know NP is a calling from YOU and I am committed. Dear LORD, hold me and keep me.

* I still have not heard back from CoG regarding the support. As I drove to campus, my heart was full of bitterness. I was upset that the announcement was made at the very end, that there was no E-mail sent out on it, that it was included in the shorter-than-usual weekly updates, that I still did not hear back regarding it even if there was nothing given. I was upset at CoG, at everyone who chose not to give, and ... I guess ... at God for not making it a little easier. I thought of leaving CoG. I thought of withholding my giving for a whole year and then leave. What a moment of spiritual warfare! How dangerous is the power of the dark side. I had to come before God and ask Him to help my lack of faith and my tendency to walk by sight. Then I realized that I had been relying on CoG to provide for me, but that is different from relying on God to provide for me. It helped me come before God and correct my attitude. Well, I have been praying and asking God to "examine my heart and take away the things that are not pleasing to Him." He apparently has answered my prayer again as He did when I prayed the same prayer this past summer. I guess this is one of the spiky prayers and it often hurts when the prayer gets answered. Yet I have been learning to praise the LORD and be thankful for His pruning. I have also been learning to be patient with myself and the process. Dear LORD, please protect my heart and my spirit. Please help me to know YOU more and know YOU better, because YOU are the object and foundation of my faith. Please forgive me for my lack of faith and the urge to take things in my own hands. Please keep me from yielding to such temptation and choose to trust in YOU and Your provision no matter what, every time I get tempted. Dear LORD, sweet Jesus, I yield to YOU and ask you to take over my life, my heart, my desires, my thoughts, my feelings, and my all in all. Amen!